If you grew up in Nigeria or have Nigerian parents, then you would understand most o
things that will be discussed here. Firstly, you will be disappointed to know that sex is a forbidden topic in a Nigerian home. No one is allowed to talk about emotions and feelings; the word sex must not be spoken in a Nigerian home otherwise, you are dead. Nigerian parents do not take this topic lightly and would be deeply unsettled about their children’s awareness of the word. Growing up in Nigeria has many challenges. This is the country where your parents do not tell you anything concrete about sex yet start to worry when they do not see you with the opposite sex after a while. In this part of the world, parents do anything to keep their children at home and expect them to do age appropriate things. In this piece, we would be looking at the ways Nigerian parents react when it is time for them to have sex education with their children. Find below some of the basic reactions you are most likely to see when it is time for Nigerian parents to educate their kids on sex:
1. When they keep mum about it Share on Facebook Share on Twitter This is the first thing you will discover about most Nigerian parents.
They would rather not talk about sex or anything that has to do with it. Since children trust their parents more than anyone else, the parents will avoid talking about this topic as their own way of limiting what they know. But in this generation, who are they deceiving?
2. When they make the children tense Share on Facebook Share on Twitter Nigerian parents know how to make their children feel queasy when it is time to discuss this topic.
The fear is constantly in the children and they do not know how to approach their parents when it comes to this topic. You can bet some Nigerian parents’ faces would be hard and grim when they want to talk about sex. This is their way of intimidating the children.
3. When they try to shut you up with their expressions Share on Facebook Share on Twitter When every other thing has failed and the parents see that the children would not keep quiet, they turn on their stern look and give them a terrorizing expression. At this point, many children would be unsure and would keep quiet before they say something that will make them look bad. They do not want their parents thinking they have been doing stuffs behind them.
4. When they talk about the dangers involved Share on Facebook Share on Twitter Another thing Nigerian parents would rather do when it comes to talking about sex is to lay more emphasis on the dangers involved. This is when they start talking about how difficult your life could become as soon as you start having sex.
It is either you get pregnant and die or you stop going to school and become a ‘paraga’ seller. The dangers are always to the extreme.
5. When they show you examples in the street Nigerian parents would not stop at telling their children about the dangers involved in having sex, they would go on to show them some people in the street whose lives have changed because they got pregnant at the wrong time. They also have dreadful stories to tell about children who were disgraced and disowned by their parents.
6. Any boy or girl seen with them is their boyfriend or girlfriend Share on Facebook Share on Twitter Nigerian parents are quick to assume every boy or girl seen around their children have evil intentions towards them. They are suspected to be their boyfriends or girlfriends.
They would shout and embarrass the suspected boys and girls. Their children too may receive the beating of their lives depending on how strict the parents are.
7. As soon as a man touches you, you will get pregnant Share on Facebook Share on Twitter Nigerian parents can scare somebody ehn, they tell their daughters they will get pregnant the moment a man touches them. What exactly do they take the girls for, pigs?
They do not want to see their teenage daughters talking to men at all and would go to any length in ensuring they do not.
8. When they keep their children at home always Share on Facebook Share on Twitter Some Nigerian parents would rather not talk about the sex subject but would do anything to protect them. Many of these children live a sheltered life;
from the school to the house and vice versa. Some do not allow their children to make friends and if they must, they would always play under their watchful eyes. This is their way of ensuring their children do not have sex.
9. When the children are expected to study always Share on Facebook Share on Twitter Although Nigerian parents know there is more to life than reading, they will still harden their faces and order their children to go and read their books.
This is the only thing that makes perfect sense to them; keeping the children busy so as not to allow them get tempted.
10. When they are expected to learn about sex from reproductory class Share on Facebook Share on Twitter Many Nigerians hear explicit things about sex from their biology or agric teachers. Some of the children cannot properly identify the parts of their bodies till they get to this class. Nigerian parents fail in this aspect because they are too stern and do not give their children the opportunity to confide in them.
11. When a sex scene is forwarded Share on Facebook Share on Twitter You do not want to be in the living room with your parents when a sex scene is up on the screen. You are expected to close your eyes or risk being scolded. You can bet your parents would forward the scene and check your reactions as they do so. You do not want to be caught interested in the scenes.
12. When they act like they do not know what safe sex is Many of the parents we have in Nigeria would always pretend as if they do not know what is called safe sex. Instead of them to educate their children properly, they would keep this information to themselves. Even when the children are married, sex is still an awkward topic between most parents and their children.
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